A sad and sometimes unjust fact of life is that people change: Hearts change, feelings change. Sometimes circumstances change the way that we feel, sometimes it is another influence from deep within ourselves. When this happens between two people in a close relationship the result can be wrenching. You may love someone very much but still discover that you have to let them go.
When you hear people say that they drifted apart, do you sometimes wonder about the truth of that circumstance? Wouldn't it be wonderful if you had the exact same feelings at the same time, and just went gently, politely on your way? What I usually see happening is an imbalance of love. When two people love each other very much,
their imbalances measure out over time. It is the rubber band theory: One moves away and springs back and then the other moves away and springs back again. Their relationship has elasticity enough to last.

But you will find yourself in other circumstances throughout a lifetime of relationships. Sometimes someone loves you more than you can love them back. This is painful, and there is guilt and shame. I have heard people say they would rather be dumped than do the dumping. I guess I can understand this perspective, however, I tend to feel those people have never been on the business end of unrequited love.
Love in the early stages is still part infatuation, part crush. Over time you grow together. There is usually a period of intense closeness when an exchange of communication is established. People will refer to their loved one as their 'best friend'. If you can keep your best friend for life, you are one of the lucky ones.

Sometimes it happens that you lose your best friend. They may pull away or grow distant. If this is after years of being close it can cause terrible panic in the other person's heart. You look to find the flaw, you try and discover what you've done. You attempt to talk about it, for this is the person you have always talked things over with, the one you trust to be there. If the feeling is mere insecurity on your part, they will reassure you. They will talk about the cause of the change and you will be close again. If they have truly pulled away, they will be impatient. They will not want to talk about their feelings, they will not want to spend time with you; they will not want any intimacies established between you. You will start to look for signs of their lack of feeling and concern. You will find the signs. They will blame you, saying your insecurity is the reason for their behavior and push away even more. You may try for a long time to reach them, maybe frantically at the height of the conflict, maybe passively, waiting to see if they'll talk on their own. As time passes you will get used to not talking to them, you will get used to their disappearing acts. There will come a day when your faith in the person you love gives way, and you stop holding on.

A person trying to hold a love together rarely gets the credit for the bravery they show while their confidence is waning. There is no way to explain how difficult it is to be in love with someone who does not love you back; who changed one day while you weren't looking. If you see the signs, there is no really great advice to give except: Retain your dignity. Make every effort your heart needs to make to keep the faith, but when you know that there is no hope, keep your head held high. Take good care of yourself. Understand that it was nothing you did or failed to do. There is nothing to help it when someone breaks the faith with you. Hard though it seems to believe, life gets better and you will, eventually, find the strength to be loved again.

she guess she made another wrong move.
she should have never let herself be attached to someone she knows a relationship she wanted is not possible. she should have not let herself involve in that particular person.
she was really right thinking it would still be very early to build a bridge towards him.
but she think she should not wait , for it will be another wrong move.
she just wanted you to know that she is happy that she has known you and that you become a part of her life.
she really hopes that the journey for both of them will now end there.

when it starts..love can be the most
happiest experience a person can have..
when it ends..loe can be the most
painful experience a person can have.

it's hard to say goodbye especially when that person really means so much to you,
but sometimes we have to say goodbye not because you didn't care anymore,
but because you have already love too much.

to let go of someone doesnt mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back..

"letting go is not just letting
the person free but it is also
setting yourself free"

sometimes she wonder why she's so inlove with you..
sometimes she can't help but cry knowing that he doesn't feel the same way too..
she's afraid she cant bear the pain, to grieve is all she can do.
too bad she can still feel the love she want from you.

"NOW GO..SHE MUST SET YOURSELVES FREE, SHE WISH YOU HAPPINESS FOR YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY"

"oftentimes we say goodbye
to the person we love
without wanting to.
though that doesn't mean
that we've stopped loving them
or we've stopped to care.
sometimes goodbye is a painful
way to say I LOVE YOU"

what if someone will break your heart? how will you deal with it?
Many people mistakenly believe that they will be able to recover from a broken relationship easily and quickly. They think that managing their heartache will not be that difficult. Dealing with the causes of break up pain is rarely something that is easy or enjoyable. The process can be related to grieving when someone you care about passess away. In the big picture view, dealing with the causes of break up pain requires you to look past the pain and find a way to move on and survive, even when it seems impossible to do so.

It can be especially difficult to deal with the causes of break up pain if you don't have anyone to turn to. Losing a loved one in a failed relationship can cause fear and misery. If there is no one to turn to the heart ache can be overwhelming. It will seem impossible to go through a break up alone, but think about how many people have gone through what you are experiencing and they survived. You can move on. You will get over these painful feelings that you have. You have to be willing to deal with the pain quickly and in a healthy manner.

Dealing with the pain of a break up can seem so difficult because often times it may feel like you are the only one in the world that is suffering the way that you are. Don't give up on the situation. Allow yourself to heal by dealing with the causes of break up pain. You have to get past dwelling on the lost relationship. This is the only way to move on. Work on getting and feeling better.

Use your friends and social network during this difficult time. If they care about you they will likely be there for you and do whatever it takes to help you through this difficult time. Your friends have probably been through a similar situation so they can relate to what you are going through. Rather than allow yourself to suffer while dealing with the causes of break up pain, what you should do is enjoy yourself and work on healing rather than allowing yourself to become stressed out, overwhelmed or depressed by your heartbreak.

Take control of the situation - don't let the situation control you. Spend time with your family and friends. Let them help you. Don't dwell on the bad feelings, focus on the good parts of your life and promote healing.

If saying goodbye hurts so much, why do we say goodbye? Because it hurts so much more to keep holding on to something that isn't there. Like you're hanging off a ledge and someone is jumping up and down on your hands but you still can't let go. Like when you're little and you're being tickled...you shout for it to stop because it's torture, but then you go back for more, because somehow being tickled makes you feel safe and special. Holding on is like that...but the torture is painful...and it doesn't make you smile. That's why we're supposed to say goodbye. That's why we're meant to let go

You hug him good-bye like it's nothing... While all you want to do is hold on forever. But you let go, smile and walk away. Then cry all the way home, because you know it will never be the same. Because, try as you might, you can't make someone love you. Sometimes you have to let them be free. And letting go... That is when love hurts the most of all

Goodbyes hurt the most when people leave without saying them

Sometimes there are things in our life that aren't meant to stay. Sometimes change may not be what we want. Sometimes change is what we really need. And sometimes saying goodbye is the hardest thing you think you'll ever have to do, but sometimes it's saying 'hello again' that breaks you down and makes you the most vulnerable person you'll ever know. Sometimes change is too much to bear, but most of the time change is the only thing saving your life.

I've learned that goodbyes will always hurt, pictures never replace having been there, memories, good or bad, will bring tears and words can never replace feelings.

you have no idea what it feels like to go every day feeling like your missing something


It’s the loneliest feeling in the world - to find yourself standing up when everyone else is sitting down. To have everybody look at you and say what’s the matter with her?? I know what it feels like. Walking down an empty street, listening to the sound of your own footsteps. Shutters closed, blinds drawn, doors locked against you. And you aren’t sure whether you’re walking toward something, or if you’re just walking away

It’s like I realized that way down inside, I’ve always been lonely for something. But I don’t know what for. It’s like everybody in the world wants something only they never really know exactly what it is - they just keep finding out what it’s not. You know how, when you turn off the TV or you come out of some concert, and everything just feels…empty? Like you thought that would be what you wanted, and then it wasn’t

It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.

I'm wishing that someday, you'll miss me terribly that no matter how hard you'll look for me, you wouldn't find me...because I want you to miss me the same way I'm missing you.

sometimes you hate them because it hurts too much to love them

I didn’t give up… I just turned my eyes away from eyes that couldn’t look into mine. I'm trying to protect all that's left of a heart

I loved you; it's not that I fell out of love with you because that would be impossible. I just couldn't handle the heartache anymore. It's not that I don't love you, it's that I can't.

I see him, but he sees past me. I look in his eyes but he looks around me. Does he know what I see when he stares through me? I see him and I can't help watching him, not watching me.

They say if you love someone you should let them go, but they never say what to do when they don’t come back

The worst thing a guy can do to a girl is make her fall for him with no intentions of catching her

I forgot what it was like to cry. I forgot that pretending to be happy doesn't make you happy. I forgot that you can't just forget the past in fear of the future. I forgot that you can't control falling in love and that you can't make yourself fall in love. I learned that I can love. I learned that sometimes the things you want most you just can't have

You'll never know pain until you look into the eyes of someone you love and they look away.

You'll never know how much I miss you. You won’t see it in my face. You'll never know that I'll never find another guy that could take your place...'Cause I'll be smiling when I see you. No, my tears won't ever show. I might always love you, but you're never going to know.

I remember the day that you asked me to let you go. You were slowly walking away and I asked "wasn't my love good enough?" then you turned around and said, "No…it was too much”

It has to be hard to watch someone you love change before your very eyes and know you can't do anything about it, but it must be heartbreaking to remember the way they once were.

Love is like an eclipse; if you wait for it long enough, it's bound to happen... but you have to wonder if it's worth it, because it just leaves you in the dark!

People always say to follow your heart but what they don't tell you…is that, just because you follow your heart, it doesn't mean there'll be a happy ending.

Have you ever fallen in love, but knew they did not care? Have you ever felt like crying, but knew you'd get nowhere? Have you ever watched them walk away, not wanting them to go? And whispered 'I love you' softly, not wanting them to know? You cried all night in misery and almost went insane. There's nothing in this world that causes so much pain.

Look around you, hearts change; I know they do.

It's amazing how much somebody can break your heart and still you love them with every broken piece of it.

I wish I was a little kid again, scraped knees are easier to fix than broken hearts.

The only thing that hurts more than a broken heart is knowing, if you had the choice to do it all over again, you would.