Friday, January 14, 2011

When Relationships Go from Hot to Cold

I was in the middle of my work when suddenly somebody asked me if there was ever a time when I felt like my husband been turning cold towards me. I stopped for a moment and had my thoughts on it.
I just said...Yeah!  But I didn't elaborated much on it instead research an artile about it. Here's what i've read from the article of Toni Coleman...
According to her...Everything was great! We shared the same interests, felt very at ease together, had often discussed future plans and had even spent so much time together.Our relationship seemed right on track and just right in general.

Then, without warning, he said that he "needs some time to think and figure things out." He stopped calling and rarely returned  calls. When he did, this was often met with silence on the other end of the line. When the girl asked "what happened", she just got a verbal run around of excuses about how busy he is and/or how much stress he is under right now.
What happened? What did I do? I don't know what to think.
Does the above scenario sound at all familiar? If so, you can relate to being confused and stunned over the sudden change in a boyfriend's/girlfriend's behavior.
Now think about this - What if your relationship wasn't what you thought it was? What if unspoken issues had existed all along? What if there were signs you chose to ignore or just didn't see? Are any of these possible?
Probably!
This sudden change in a couple's relationship is reported quite a bit by individuals who have just broken up with a significant other. Unfortunately, it leaves the person who has been "dumped" with feelings of low self-esteem, regret, inadequacy and anger.
There is often no real closure, as the couple is never able (willing) to talk through what went wrong or was never right with their relationship.
So, how can you know what the problem was and hope to avoid a repeat of this hurtful experience? You can do this by examining your failed relationship and gaining insight and understanding about what just wasn't right between you.
And in the end...if this isn't worth holding...you have to set each other's free :(

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